Is this abuse? Know the signs.

What does abuse look like?

Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used by an individual to establish and maintain control over an intimate partner. Domestic violence may consist of physical, sexual, psychological, and/or emotional abuse.

There is no typical survivor or victim of intimate partner violence.  If you’re wondering about the health of your relationship, the following considerations may be helpful.

Does your partner ever:

  • Make all your decisions?
  • Try to control who you can see, where you can go or who you can talk to?
  • Embarrass you with put-downs?
  • Control the money in your relationship? Demand to take your checks or make you ask for money?
  • Tell you you’re a bad parent or threaten to take your children away?
  • Stop you from seeing your family or your friends?
  • Tell you the abuse is your fault or in your own mind?
  • Destroy your belongings or threaten your pets?
  • Threaten to commit suicide or to kill you?
  • Push, hit, slap or choke you?

If you answered “yes” to any one or more of these questions you may be in an abusive relationship. Please use the resources of this website to learn more about what abusive relationships look like, why they’re so hard to leave and what help is available. Call 360.715.1563 at any time to speak with an advocacy counselor to find more help or resources.